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Control or Dictate: You Choose.

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  I think it’s fair to say that many of us have had experiences working with others where leadership skills were lacking. Perhaps you’ve had a manager, coach, or friend handle you like you were a ‘subject’ to be told what to do. Or perhaps worse yet, you had a parent who incessantly tried to control everything you did, reminding you of everything you should or should not be doing. I’m curious: how did those experiences make you feel?  Now, consider what your children hear from you each day. Are you trying to control them with your words? If so, such strategies often end up with harsh psychological consequences. Let’s consider your options.  Leadership Qualities Good leaders display several qualities that separate them from poor leaders. First, they lead by example and walk their talk. They carefully consider how to teach, how to guide, and what systematic ways they can lead others responsibly. They don’t yell at others and expect them to remain calm. They don’t preach one message yet d

What We Are Focusing On Needs Attention!

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  Most of us go through our daily lives not recognizing the power of focus.  If we're listening to the news, and something catches us, we focus on it.  If we're standing in line and there's a grumpy patron in front of us, we tend to focus on them.  If traffic is bad going to work, this tends to hold our focus for the entire commute.   We focus there if Facebook, Twitter, or TikTok catches our eye.  If our boss is in a bad mood, we complain to our co-workers and keep focusing on it.  If our children are upset, we often focus on their upsets.  When our children complain in the face of a blessed world full of fantastic opportunities, we focus on it.  We engage what they have chosen to focus on because we don't realize we are teaching them to filter their lives.  If chronic, this becomes the habitual filter through which they interpret the world.   Our children will, without intervention, be vastly compromised in managing their attention unless we begin to make changes.  Th

NSDR and Neurofeedback Explained By Licensed Psychologist Dr. Randy Cale

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