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Emptiness of Attention Seeking

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  A mom in my office said it perfectly last week: "He wants attention every second. If I look away for one minute, he's whining or yelling or doing something dramatic to get me back. It’s like he can’t just be okay  for a moment, without demanding me or my attention." And she’s not alone.  Across the board—from toddlers to teens—we’re seeing kids trapped in an endless loop of seeking attention. And not just any attention. It has to be now. Instant. Intense. And it better come with a side of praise or excitement.  Oh yes, I forgot.  And, “Give me attention now, and also give me what I want when I demand it.” We live in a culture where the mind is constantly seeking. And yet, despite all the comforts, the gadgets, the opportunities—we’re more miserable than ever. Rates of anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation are exploding in children, teens, and adults alike.  Why?  One answer might be:   Our minds?  Too full.   Our hearts...

A Freedom Worth Celebrating — Inside and Out

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  As the fireworks light up the summer sky and families gather in backyards across the country, we are once again reminded of the beauty of freedom. This 4th of July weekend offers a moment — a brief pause — to reflect on what it means to be free. And the ideals that inspired the very freedom we often take for granted. So yes, it’s worth all that beautiful celebration. And this year, I will invite you to also consider not just our collective freedom as a nation, but also the quieter, more personal kind of freedom: the freedom within. But first: Honoring the Freedom We Share Let’s begin by honoring those who came before us. This holiday reminds us of those who risked — and gave — their lives to defend a vision of liberty, equality, and self-determination. Their sacrifices weren’t about creating a perfect nation, but about creating a  free  one — where every human being has a chance to build, to speak, to love, and to grow. There’s something sacred in that. And while our pa...