Emptiness of Attention Seeking

A mom in my office said it perfectly last week: "He wants attention every second. If I look away for one minute, he's whining or yelling or doing something dramatic to get me back. It’s like he can’t just be okay for a moment, without demanding me or my attention." And she’s not alone. Across the board—from toddlers to teens—we’re seeing kids trapped in an endless loop of seeking attention. And not just any attention. It has to be now. Instant. Intense. And it better come with a side of praise or excitement. Oh yes, I forgot. And, “Give me attention now, and also give me what I want when I demand it.” We live in a culture where the mind is constantly seeking. And yet, despite all the comforts, the gadgets, the opportunities—we’re more miserable than ever. Rates of anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation are exploding in children, teens, and adults alike. Why? One answer might be: Our minds? Too full. Our hearts...